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Saturday, January 16, 2016
If you want 2 be happy, know where
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If you draw
a circle around yourself, where do you stand?
There are always opposite
personalities, and others who do not think the way you do. There are givers and takers, and I would like
to pose the question…”Where do you stand?”
Are you a giver or a taker?
I have drawn
up an image to illustrate this for you.
I drew two circles, and put two people inside the circle. These people represent you and someone else
close to you. Then, I have placed a word
balloon coming out of each circle that says two different things.
Humm… what can they do for us?
What can we do for others?
will, like the famous quote(1)draw a circle around themselves and not let anyone else inside their
circle. All of their focus is directed
to what is inside that circle, and unfortunately they are only thinking about
themselves, but become so self-absorbed
and selfish, all they can think about is #1, which represents what others can
do for them, to make them happy, or successful.
Unfortunately for them, they miss out on the more important things in
life that makes people truly happy. They
think so much about what they can get from others, never considering that they
could contribute, pay back or pay it forward, because they are the single most
important people in their world. Nobody
else matters, except for those who they can get something from, to improve
On the other
hand, there are other people, who are the polar opposite of the ones we just
described. These are the Givers,# 2
circle, the unselfish, who don’t ask what others can do for them, but ask, “What
can they do for others.” These are the
people who look outside their circle, and will draw others in to join them, expanding
their circle to including others, make true friendships, and look outwards
instead of inward. They are not selfish,
but generous with all they have, helping the poor and needy, others who are burdened
with trials, and grief. They are the
lifters, the givers, the unselfish and are indeed true friends. As time goes by, their circle expands to fit
all who would want to join them, and these people are the happy ones.
difference between these two circles talked about. My suggestion is to look at your own circle,
and determine which of these two examples best illustrates or fits you. Then ask yourself… “Am I happy?” If your answer is No, then you and only you
have the ability to change your world, your destiny and your life’s
outlook. The key here is to not make
your whole focus on yourself and your own self-interests, but to enlarge your
circle to draw others in, reaching out with service, friendship and
charity. When you do this, you will feel
so different, and understand that people need people, and the only way to be
happy is to go outside of yourself, and genuinely let others in, and with no
strings attached. It isn’t what others
can do for you that will make your life happy, but what you can do for others
that will bring you true joy and happiness.
If you want to be happy, then let it go! I am talking about things that have pulled you under, hurt like the dickens, and weighed you down. Yes, I am talking about those things people have said or done to hurt you. LET IT GO! I'm also talking about offences they have done to your children, pain they have inflicted because they are just mean... I say, "Let it go!" I am talking about the things that keep you up at night, the things that keep you addicted to numb the pain, and all other things you can think of. Just let it go!
Yesterday, I spent my birthday crying over something someone had said, who severely misjudged me. I was innocent of all the allegations they were making against me, but they had determined otherwise, and set out to defame, spew guile, and to just plain hurt me. I thought we were friends, which was another hurt that beset me, because obviously this person did not like me, one little bit. I cried until my eyes were red and swollen. I could barely breathe, I was so stuffed up from crying. I was a sad mess, and to make it even worse, all this happened on my birthday.
That afternoon, I logged on to Facebook and read from a friends page, that had posted the best possible quote, that helped lift my spirits, and help me to realize just how unimportant this hurtful situation was in my life. This is what the quote said:
"So many of us make a great fuss over matters of small consequence. We are so easily offended. Happy is the man who can brush aside the offending remarks of another, and go on his way." This quote was written by Gordon B. Hinckley, in a talk he gave called, "Slow to Anger." I read this talk and it helped me so much, that I wanted to include the link to help others. Here is is: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/10/slow-to-anger?lang=eng
Isn't it amazing how something so small as a short quote can completely straighten out what you have been worrying over, and shedding far too many tears about? I have to say that it took a lot of what someone else did to offend me, but I made the choice to let it trouble me as it did. After reading this message the thought came into my mind, which is another famous quote, as of the past few years, and something that my little grand daugher sings all the time, and this is...."LET IT GO!"
I understand the atonement of Jesus Christ, and know that we don't have to suffer like we all do, because we can give away to Christ, our pains, and sorrows, afflictions, and torments. He has already suffered them for us and we just have to Let it go and He will make up the rest. It is true. After I let it go, I cannot tell you how much peace I felt. My burden was lifted and I was able to look around and see the things of life that truly matter, and make me happy.
I hope this short story will help you to understand that if you want to be happy, then let it go!
P.S. I found the greatest talk that helps all of us to understand the full extent of the Atonement Jesus Christ made for us. It is a talk written by Elder Dallin H. Oaks, and it is called "Strengthened by the Atonement of Jesus Christ." I encourage everyone, everywhere to read this, and be able to fully understand what His Atonement can do for you to be happy again.
It is a proven fact, if you really want to be happy, then take time, and spend it with your family. It is a simple truth. Building those relationships within the bonds of your family can make it or break family relationships and bonds. So I would like to suggest 10 things you can do to with your family, that builds unity, love and respect.
1. Have dinner together, around the table.
2. Have a chat!
3. Have family council.
4. Read together.
5. Hug each other, every single day!
6. Forgive each other daily, then forget about
what you forgave.
7. Take time to listen, without interrupting.
8. Laugh and cry together.
9. Be thankful and use your words of gratitude.
10. Be kind.
I could go on and share more of my thoughts, but the next step would be for you to think about why each of these ten things were listed. What difference would they make in a family? What needs do they fulfill in each family member? Then think about taking away each of these things, and how would it affect your family relationships?
If you want to be happy, then spend time with your family, building the relationships that will endure the test of time, trials, hurts, heartaches, pain and grief. Build character in your children by teaching them values through your own example as parents. Love, love, love your children, they simply grow up way too fast, and when their grown, they'll come back with their own little kiddies, to love you and do all those things you did for them. One big happy family.... and it's never too late to start.
If anyone knows me, they know that I love the Hokey Pokey, so when I found this fabulous quote, I knew I needed to add it to my happy blog. If you don't already know, the Hokey Pokey was a song and dance that just made you happy doing it. It goes like this...
"You put your right foot in, you put your right foot out,
You put your right foot in and you shake it all about...
You do the hokey Pokey and you turn yourself around,
Thats what it's all about!"
The song doesn't end there, and in fact it goes on with more verses shaking your body and turning yourself around, and jumping in and jumping out. Oh I have great memories doing the Hokey Pokey at some Family Christmas Parties when I was a little girl. I don't remember very much about those parties, but I do remember doing the Hokey Pokey. I also remember that my Grandmother use to ask, after the dance ended, "Does anyone want to do it again?" All the grand kids would cheer and yell, "YES!" I don't remember how many times we did this dance over and over, but I remember it snowing outside, but because we were shaking it inside, I was sweating. I remember my Uncle Leo, really getting into this dance, and the smile on my own Grandpa's face, as he watched everyone buy him doing the dance.
If you want to be happy, during the holiday season, I would highly recommend you download a copy of the Hokey Pokey, and dance with your kids. Everyone will love it and you will be doing one of the greatest things to make yourself and other happy, and that is spending fun time with family, and making a memory that will last for a lifetime.
So if you have not figured out yet the links to the Hokey Pokey, here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_P9PU5FcMQ
I am posting this freebie printable invitation on several of my blogs, so more of you can find it and be able to use it for your Thanksgiving dinner invitation. Feel free to use it and enjoy. If you go to my other blog at here, you should be able to find my other invitation that I created a few years back that was so popular. I really have no idea just how many people use what I create and give away but it would be a nice little experiment if you would just post a tiny and short message as how you are going to use it and what your thoughts are about Thanksgiving. I found this adorable Turkey here:
I have a second little freebie/gift that I wanted to share too. It is a door hanger, that has a wonderful message on it. Read the message and then spend some time pondering how it impacts you. This isn't to make you feel guilty about anything, but more so to help remind you to become aware of those around you. Thanksgiving is a time of year when we can reflect on those blessings we have been given, and show our gratitude for the goodness of God in blessing our lives.
So why am I blogging about this on a "HAPPY" blog? It is because there is a secret that needs to be let out of the bag. I have actually written a book about it that is now out and selling all over the place. It is short, but has a great message. It's illustrated, so it isn't boring. I hope if you have a chance to get your hands on a copy (or make yourselves take the chance to get one) that you will apply the principles and learn the secret of being happy. My book is the name of this blog "If you want to be happy give something away." I am practicing what I preach and I am giving away to you these little gifts. I hope you will enjoy them and drop me a note to say "HI!" By the way, I am selling my book on Amazon and if you decide to get yourselves a copy, be sure to buy it from Discoveryshops, which is my store. Just type in the Amazon search bar, "If you want to be happy give something away" and click below the where it gives you a variety of sellers of my book. Please pick mine! It would certainly make me Happy if you did. ha, ha. Enjoy! Kathleen Gauger