If you want 2 be happy, know where
you stand!
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If you draw
a circle around yourself, where do you stand?
There are always opposite
personalities, and others who do not think the way you do. There are givers and takers, and I would like
to pose the question…”Where do you stand?”
Are you a giver or a taker?
I have drawn
up an image to illustrate this for you.
I drew two circles, and put two people inside the circle. These people represent you and someone else
close to you. Then, I have placed a word
balloon coming out of each circle that says two different things.
- Humm… what can they do for us?
- What can we do for others?
Some people
will, like the famous quote(1) draw a circle around themselves and not let anyone else inside their
circle. All of their focus is directed
to what is inside that circle, and unfortunately they are only thinking about
themselves, but become so self-absorbed
and selfish, all they can think about is #1, which represents what others can
do for them, to make them happy, or successful.
Unfortunately for them, they miss out on the more important things in
life that makes people truly happy. They
think so much about what they can get from others, never considering that they
could contribute, pay back or pay it forward, because they are the single most
important people in their world. Nobody
else matters, except for those who they can get something from, to improve
their lives.
On the other
hand, there are other people, who are the polar opposite of the ones we just
described. These are the Givers,# 2
circle, the unselfish, who don’t ask what others can do for them, but ask, “What
can they do for others.” These are the
people who look outside their circle, and will draw others in to join them, expanding
their circle to including others, make true friendships, and look outwards
instead of inward. They are not selfish,
but generous with all they have, helping the poor and needy, others who are burdened
with trials, and grief. They are the
lifters, the givers, the unselfish and are indeed true friends. As time goes by, their circle expands to fit
all who would want to join them, and these people are the happy ones.
Quite a
difference between these two circles talked about. My suggestion is to look at your own circle,
and determine which of these two examples best illustrates or fits you. Then ask yourself… “Am I happy?” If your answer is No, then you and only you
have the ability to change your world, your destiny and your life’s
outlook. The key here is to not make
your whole focus on yourself and your own self-interests, but to enlarge your
circle to draw others in, reaching out with service, friendship and
charity. When you do this, you will feel
so different, and understand that people need people, and the only way to be
happy is to go outside of yourself, and genuinely let others in, and with no
strings attached. It isn’t what others
can do for you that will make your life happy, but what you can do for others
that will bring you true joy and happiness.
So, to sum
it up… If you want to be happy, know where you stand, and enjoy a richer and
happier life! If you would like to see another great way to be happy, please go to this link: https://www.mormon.org/ beliefs/how-to-be-happy